Accidentally in Love...

So on April 3rd, it was my Marine and my one year anniversary. It doesn't seem like a big deal because I've dated multiple Marines and my relationships with them have lasted for a while. I'm so use to the lifestyle that to me, this date didn't seem extremely significant. But it really is. I mean for all of the things that my Marine and I have been through, this is a big deal. I have a lot to say for today because of a conversation he and I had last night that forced both of us to think about how we consider our relationship.

Before he left for boot camp, I always wanted to spend time with him. I didn't want him partying too much with his friends, mostly because his friends hated me. He never understood how I felt about it, he kept pushing and pushing which led us to almost breaking up before he left. We managed to make it through boot camp, I became a little more laid back and wanted to go out with friends more. The problem is that most of my friends are guys. That started a whole other issue. It's funny because we both have switched roles. Now that he is far away and I want to go out and have fun, he's hurt.

I argue that we both should be able to make our own choices and do what we want to do within limits. I should be able to hang with my guy friends and he should trust me. It's not working out so well to be honest. He feels like me hanging with them is completely untrustworthy so that's starting fights. I see his side because he dates for marriage, not to just date. So do I but we both need different amounts of freedom.

Here's my advice to anyone in a military relationship. Establish boundaries for the your relationship right off the bat. During the main part of our relationship before we took a four week break, we had those rules established. Once someone told me that I wasn't married to him and that it's a relationship, I'm young and I should enjoy it. I started realizing that I had put everything in and I felt like I got the worse end of the deal because I was always putting in more than he was. So he and I are at a cross roads currently.

I'd make sure you have clear ground rules going in and establish them so that there is no confusion. He went to work this morning without texting me, which he never does. He's hurt and he's upset with everything that's going on and I feel horrible for that. But we both are two separate people and you can't base everything off your relationship. When he's on deployment, I'm going to hang out with friends to pass the time, I'm always faithful but I'm not going to sit in my room doing homework 24/7. That's no way to live. Again, seize the day, Carpe Diem.

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