Alright so I probably won't get him back. He said three weeks ago that he loved me so much and he wanted to make this work no matter what. Now, right before he leaves for a year he asks another girl out? It makes no sense to me. People keep giving me reasons:
"Oh he's rebounding..."
"Oh he misses you..."
"He just doesn't know how to handle all of this..."
Not one of those things is a comfort to be honest. I loved him with everything I had and if he had truly loved me (like he said for a year and a half!) then he would have stuck by me. You know what is the most ridiculous thing about it all. She looks just like me, this new girl. Ugh, it kind of makes me mad. They spend two days together and then he decides to date her. Smooth move stud. Oh well, life goes on right. So here's my advice.
I am hurting right now, that I won't lie to you about but I don't pretend to know everything about Marine Corps relationships. Take it from my three failures so far, which I contributed however the military really changed all three of the men I cared about. So don't take my word as strongly as some religious text because it's not. My hope is to help all of you to have successes from my failures and to learn from my mistakes. I truly loved this man with everything I had, I realized that sometimes you need to be with the one person who gets you and who brings out the BEST in you, not the best and the worst. So I'll move on, the chances of us working out later is extremely slim. That is fine. I do know where my heart is and I know to a point where it has always been. I hope that I have enough strength and faith to make it through this, just like I hope all of you can do so as well. Stay strong and remember if you need something I am always here.
Semper Fi
CM©Semperfikindoflove
Oh my GOD. You are amazing haha. I'm sorry if I was you, I would've been the biggest bitch in the world about him dating someone else but then again, you're probably more mature than I am. I want to ask, have you guys been talking while you guys were on your break? If you were, that helps a lot. It reminds both of you what you've been through with each other and what you both have that you need for each other and it makes you guys miss each other more. That's how it works for me & my man. If not, then it's more likely he's thinking you're not thinking of him or you don't miss him. I hope that's not what happened. I hope you at least tried to show you miss him and all that stuff. He doesn't know what he lost. He probably lost the best thing in his life honestly. I hope it's his way of coping with how much he misses you and how lonely he is and he just doesn't wanna seem like a girl coming back & telling you how much he really does love you & miss you.
ReplyDeleteIt seems like from your blog, you're such a dedicated marine girlfriend and I know from reading all of it, you'll probably make an amazing wife! Marine wife/civilian wife, whatever... you deserve the best :)
He'll come back to you if he loves you. Give it time and if not, then it's the start of a new beginning.
I wish you well :(
(Sorry this was so long :x )
Jess.
Thanks Jess! We did talk a lot and all he did was get angry with me. I sat down with his mom after he left for a year and talked to her. She thinks he is rebounding, but I'm not waiting to find out. If she makes him happy, then so be it. I can't really change how he feels. He says he is completely over me, I guess that's how it is after being together for a year and a half. I reminded him how much I loved him and that part of the reason we fought so much is because he NEVER wanted to Skype or text, or even call.
ReplyDeleteOf course now with this new girl, he's all over fb about it. He was never like that with me. But I guess sometimes new flings really do that to you. He and I use to be like that.
Thank you for the kind words. I was a dedicated Marine girlfriend and the Marines has completely changed me as a person. I appreciate everything you said! You are such a sweetheart and my hope is that you and your man can make it through all of the ups and downs smoothly! Stay level headed and remember not to take anything for granted!
Christine