Your life, your choice

Alright I just have a thought for today that occurred to me when I was answering a question for someone. They asked if they should listen to their girlfriend or if they should enlist in the Marines like they have always wanted to do. I am warning all who read this that you may not like what I have to say about this but I can explain why I am saying it.

You need to do what you want to do in life. If that's enlisting in the Marines, you shouldn't let your girlfriend stop you. You will always have the Marines if you do it but you may not always have her as a girlfriend. Girlfriends come and go, your career will not. You will always have that base that you form in the Marines, the brotherhood, and the benefits. You are dating this girl, not married to her. If you were married you would need to consider how she felt but if you are dating, you make the choice. You will resent her later on if you regret your choice to stay with her.

Another point I want to cover is the fact that a GOOD girlfriend would support you in WHATEVER you choose to do as long as it is legal and beneficial to you as an individual. A good girlfriend would recognize that this is your choice and not hers, she really has no say in it whatsoever. She would accept that, tell you how she feels, but would stand behind you no matter what you do. If she loved you, that's what she would do.

I've come to realize that if you love someone you want what makes them happy even if that isn't you. Whether you agree with me or not, dating and marriage are different things. While you need to consider both individuals when making a decision the main thing to remember is that you are your own person, you are not bound to the other person's choices forever. You can leave when you want and so can the other person, so you need to do what is best for you and especially while you are young, you need to realize that you only live once. Don't let anyone stop you from doing what you want to do.

I'll be honest, the guy that I am interested in right now (a civilian) is pursuing a career in boxing. That's dangerous, it scares me, he's one of my best friends. He's a really good boxer. I know he will do well but a few hits to the head could really hurt him. That is his choice, I can't tell him not to do that. I can stand behind him and support him, tell him how I feel but in the end this is all up to him. I want him to accomplish all he wants in life. My ex wanted to go into the Marines, I'd been through two bad relationships with the Marines, but I stood behind him. All I know is that to be a good girlfriend you need to be selfless and understanding even when it hurts. You should expect the same from your boyfriend as well.

That's my say for the day, I am sorry if that offends anyone but each person is entitled to their own life.

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