Alright there's a topic I want to cover today, I was reading some questions online in regards to relationships and what they were like when it comes to the military. I even had a few questions about fidelity in the Marines, why marriages fail so often, etc. I have a few answers to these questions that I hope will help everyone.
Why do marriages fail in the military? Why are divorce rates high in the military?
- There are a lot of reasons that divorce rates are what they are in the military, there are also a lot of reasons why marriages fail. A lot of men in the military are 18, 19, 20, etc. and their girlfriends are around the same age. Many couples feel that getting married is the right answer because somehow it will help the distance and it will help with fidelity. A lot of couples also think they can handle the stress of long distance when in reality they can't. I'm not saying that every young marriage won't work out because I know A LOT of young military wives and husbands who are happily married and have been for a while. However, those who jump into it after only a few months of dating or because they are scared about an upcoming deployment have a greater chance of not seeing how hard the distance is on their relationships. That eventually leads to divorce. There are very few individuals who can actually handle relationships with military men/women. It's one of the most complicated relationships to hold on to but it's also one of the most rewarding. So if you can make it through deployments and through training, I think marriage may be right for you. But don't just jump into it because you are afraid of losing them.
Why do so many people cheat on their military significant others? Why is infidelity so common in the military?
- The first thing I might ask you is your source of information. A lot of the relationships you hear about with the military include infidelity because those are the relationships that get the attention, those are the relationships that people decide to talk about. Yes, cheating does occur. Does everyone do it? No. I get the question, "how do you stay faithful when in a relationship with a Marine? OR how do you not want to be with someone else, your relationship seems so hard?" Well, when I was dating my exes (including my best friend), I always had to think of a good answer. The one I wanted to answer was "because I love him." But that answer doesn't really help anyone. The reason you stay faithful is because you know that with time the hardships will pass and you two will be together. You understand that he has just as hard of a time being away from you as you do him. You also have to realize that he needs you to support him, not go around chasing other guys while he is away. There is a high percentage of military relationships that go without infidelity or that make it through infidelity. One of my exes cheated on me and we survived for a while after that as a couple because I was able to forgive and be strong. Trust me when I say that a lot of the stories you hear are the negative ones because people like drama, they like a good story. It's just built into the make up of a human being.
I think those are the two topics I will cover tonight. I have some online questions to answer and after that I think I'll work on my book for a little bit before heading to bed. Class in the morning bright and early. It's going to be a long day! Have a fantastic evening folks!
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